​How to Stay Happy When Those Around You Are Not–By Jennie Lee


No one likes conflict. And when those around us are unhappy about something it is easy to take it personally, especially when they are blaming us for their unhappiness! The most typical responses are to try to make the problem go away by fixing it, or to escape by avoiding the issue. Let’s consider a third response.


How to Stay Happy When Those Around You Are Not


Consider for a moment someone in your life who is unhappy about something that relates to you. Now get centered. Be still and take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you cannot make someone else happy any more than they can make you happy. Happiness is a choice we elect within our own being, regardless of anyone or anything on the outside.


Physically, mentally and emotionally let go of feeling responsible the other person’s happiness. This does not mean that you isolate yourself or become unresponsive to the legitimate needs of those you care about. It means that you stay focused within so that you can appropriately analyze what is going on.


Take some time in reflective silence, calming any emotional reactions you feel about the other person’s difficulty. Notice any impulses that arise to take it on or defend your position in relation to it. Breathe through these.


When you feel calm, objectively look at any part you play in the other person’s discomfort. Is there something that you can do to help them, without compromising your own boundaries or taking on a false sense of responsibility for their wellbeing? If so, make those changes. If it seems the issue really is not about you at all, then in your mind compassionately send them peace and strength to find their own solutions. Visualize a harmonious outcome for all involved.


Finally, whether you have decided to engage in personal change or support the other person in his/hers, decide in this moment to stay in your happy place. It does not help either of you to take on someone else’s misery. Remember happiness is ultimately a choice we each make. We alone are responsible for creating our happiness, through our purposeful activities, loving relationships, creative pursuits and spiritual practices. And by sharing our happiness with others, we offer an example for them to follow as they make choices for their own wellbeing.

DIY | 1 hour Kimono Cardigan

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Kimonos are EVERYWHERE.

I just went shopping yesterday at Ion to celebrate the end of my exams (FINALLY), and every major fashion outlet  I visited all sold kimonos! These kimono cardigans were available in all sorts of prints – from tropical palm trees to pastel florals to even boho loooking feathers!

I simply love the kimono cardigan’s loose and flowy shape, and how it’s just so effortless-looking. I was soooo tempted to purchase the cute pastel one from H&M for $39.90, but managed to stop myself (with great effort). I mean, how hard could it be to make one myself, right?

Turns out, it was extremely easy!! I spent some time studying the shape of kimonos online,, and also noted the shape of the ones at H&M, and finally thought of a suitable pattern for it. Actually now that I think about it, there wasn’t even much of a pattern! I basically drew…

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STARS OF THE NIGHT

Look at the stars

Shining in the sky

Look at the shoes

Sparklin in the ground

Look out everywhere

Everyone is ready to sing n dance

Yeah….

We gonna make it

We gonna make it

We gonna make the world

Most wonderful place

We gonna make it

We gonna make it

We gonna make the world

Most wonder ful place

We are the stars of the night

We’re stars of the night

Grab the floor

With all new beats

Stop the time

To make it forever

Be dazzle

Just scream n shout as the way you want

Yeah….

We gonna make it

We gonna make it

We gonna make the world

Most wonderful place

We gonna make it

We gonna make it

We gonna make the world

Most wonder ful place

We are the stars of the night

We’re stars of the night

Sparkling,dazzling

Whatever itis

I just scream n shout to sing n dance

It’s most wonderful place, amazing place

Cuz we-are-the-stars of the night

Yeah….

We gonna make it

We made the world

Most wonderful place

Most amazing place

Most beautiful place

Cuz we’re stars of the night

Bright the light for everyone

For everyone….

Websites for the Greater Good: Non-Profits on WordPress.com

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All kinds of organizations make their home on WordPress.com: small businesses, municipalities, religious organizations, schools, community groups. We also provide an online HQ for quite a few non-profits, from the global to the hyperlocal. They turn to WordPress.com for an easy-to-use, low cost solution that gets them an effective web presence without diverting thousands of dollars from their missions: helping others.

Here are just a few of the organizations that call WordPress.com home, and some of the ways they’ve used WordPress.com to create compelling sites that tell their stories and engage their supporters — nearly all for little or no cost:

Girls’ Globe

Girls’ Globe is a Sweden-based non-profit that connects individuals and organizations dedicated to the rights, health, and empowerment of women and girls.

Girls' Globe

The site creates a space for bloggers and non-profits to share stories of their challenges and successes. Each of those stories becomes a learning experience for…

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